Helen Nanjira Mazuva-Gregory

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HELEN’S MOTIVATION FOR THE MORNING AFTER THE CROWNING DAY

 ARE YOU A WINNER EVEN WITHOUT A CROWN?

Excitement was everywhere.  Everyone of you who were participating as well as your assistants felt the adrenalin high.  It’s what you had been working towards for many months.  Butterflies of every description were fluttering inside you. Well why not? This was your dream, the moment you had been waiting for!

Now, some hours later, it’s all over.  The high has subsided, the butterflies are gone.  You were not the one who walked that envied walkway with a crown on your head and roses in your arms.  Of course you cheered the winner.  You were happy for her and hugged her like all the rest.  But all the while you were choking back heart sobs, for you really wanted to be the winner.  That was your dream.

So where do you go from here?  What will you take with you from this event? What will remain in your memory box for eons of time and of what do you need to let go?

I imagine you’ve gained many new friends.  You laughed, cried and shared a momentous time of your life together.  That built wonderful bonds that could last a lifetime.  Even if the friendships dwindle away over time, look at all you gained, a new awareness in this journey called LIFE.

You learned that there are many beautiful women as you are, who also have great talents and abilities.  You learned that it was a lot of hard, work but that you did it, and not only did you do it, you did it well.  You probably met a lot of new, interesting people and maybe traveled to a place you hadn’t been before.  You were admired by your peers and put on a bit of a pedestal, for you were a chosen one.  The press ran after you made you feel important.  You were pampered and placed into limelight.  You received marvelous gifts and notoriety and knew you were loved and glorified from the perspective of the world.

All of these are positive reinforcement from a wonderful adventure in the physical world, whether you were the crowned beauty or not.  But did some dimly negative feeling surface?  Did you feel a twinge of jealousy for the winner, or perhaps even a few moments of anger that she won instead of you? Were you sad, resentful, disappointed, or did you even feel that you weren’t good enough since you didn’t win?

These are normal feelings to feel, for a moment.  But these feelings do not serve you highest and best if they linger in your thoughts.  Now let’s look at you.  You are beautiful.  You are sexy.  You are gifted with many talents.  You had a dream of winning the coveted crown, and worked hard to obtain it.  Yes, you have great gifts, but these all found in the material world.  These externals, even to your physical beauty, are not really who you are.  They are the image, or illusion if you will, of you.

Okay, I’m getting a little heavy now. But seriously, this is important stuff.  Do you really believe that the “house” you call your identity, your external self, is who you are? I’ve got news for you, that is not the real you. You are a spirit, experiencing this life of human existence.

You’ve probably heard the saying that “what’s on the outside counts,” or “he has a terrific personality. “maybe you’ve heard one of these when a friend was trying to fix you up on a blind date and you instinctively knew the date would not be a hunk! We go for the external first because that’s what we see. Let’s face it, we all enjoy gazing at a beautiful woman or man.  It’s a pleasure to behold them.  But what is inside that exterior?  Does that shell have beauty underneath it?  It’s all about seeing beyond that exterior.  It is inside that counts.

The person who is a loving soul is the one that will be remembered when the external beauty fades away as it once was.  The person who is compassionate, lends a hand when needed, says a kind word that cheers the heart, gives a much needed hug, shed a tear with you, prays with you, squeezes dollar into your hand when times are tough, bring you soup when you are sick, appreciate you and says, “Thank you”, who laughs at you dump jokes, who smiles and makes you smile when you’re having a bad hair day, who quietly “takes it” when you’re  PMS…in, who doesn’t have the right, never judges you, and who truly feels honored to be in you presence, is an individual who runs beauty right off the charts.  It comes from the inside out.

This person radiate love to all who come into contact with them, their heart is open and invites you in.  The smile and words are genuine and you know this person is a real soul.  You’ve all seen this kind of woman.  She holds her head high and knows her own worth.  Her confidence is portrayed through her strength of character, and her loving, positive energy attracts people to her like a magnet.  And do you know why?  Because she knows her own value and is aware of her inner beauty.  This woman may experience the moment of defeat with a fleeting flash of sadness, after all that is just being human.  But his woman immediately shifts to the knowing that all is well and so is she.

So you see, no matter what the outcomes of the competition, she knows she is a winner.  We talk about success and some might go so far as to say that all those who didn’t win were failures.  Not on your life!  Every woman who went through the experience was both a winner and successful, she needs to be applauded.  It took courage, many hours of preparation, diligence, perseverance, walking through the fear and making it happen.  In my perception, that’s a winner.  That’s success.  Only one can wear the crown, but every woman who stood on that stage was just as worthy as the one who wears the crown.

The same is true in our everyday lives.  Each one of us is a divine being, a woman of worth, who has more gifts and talents than we have to tap into.  There are no limits to what each of us can accomplish, providing we decide to do it and move forward with it, and always from your heart. While it’s a gift to be beautiful on the outside, it’s much more of a gift to be beautiful on the inside.  The person you really remember is the one who touches your heart by shining their heart to you.

Growing up, at times in my life I felt lesser, defective, imperfect and not good enough.  When I didn’t win at something I felt absolutely no good. Then one day, as if I just turned on the light, I realized how fabulous, wonderful, beautiful, and talented I am.  Once I saw this in myself, I could see it in YOU!  You cannot share what you do not have.  Know your own greatness, for it is already within you.  Shine forth for you are WINNER! GOD BLESS – Helen Mazuva